💬 What’s It Like to Work With You?
That question stopped everyone in their tracks.
Not, “What do you do?”
Not, “How impressive is your resume?”
But “What’s it like to actually work with you?”
That was the heart of our Breakfast with Champions workshop this week. And it’s one of the most important brand questions no one teaches you to ask.
Because here’s the truth:
🧠 People won’t always remember your pricing.
🧠 They won’t always remember your service menu.
🧠 But they always remember how they felt working with you.
And that feeling—whether it’s calm, scattered, uplifted, dismissed, empowered, or overlooked—that’s your invisible brand.
💡 The Trust Bank: Your Real-Time Reputation Ledger
We began with a concept I call the Trust Bank—a living, breathing account you have with every client, colleague, and collaborator.
Every action, message, silence, and follow-through is either:
🔹 a deposit (showing up, delivering, supporting)
🔸 or a withdrawal (ghosting, missing, overpromising, vanishing)
But here’s what makes it even more profound:
Some people walk around emotionally bankrupt… and don’t even know it.
You may think your deliverables are strong.
You may think your brand looks great.
But what’s the emotional experience people are having?
That’s where the power is.
And that’s where the damage begins—when we don’t look.
📊 What Our Workshop Participants Said
I asked the room:
“How do you want people to feel when they work with you?”
Here’s what they shared—no rehearsals, just raw truth:
| Name | How They Want Others to Feel |
|---|---|
| Favour | Safe |
| Christina | Fulfilled |
| Jessica | Important and Seen |
| Ishman | Motivated |
| Patty | Truth |
| John | Reliable |
| Tony C | Victorious |
| Mary Lynn | Confident |
| Norman | Celebrated |
| Jessica | Respected |
| Mild Bill | Faithful, Humble, and Confident |
These words tell a powerful story.
Not one person said “impressed,” “entertained,” or “in awe.”
They said seen, safe, truthful, celebrated, motivated.
Why? Because people don’t stay where they’re dazzled.
They stay where they feel valued.
🧠 Let’s Go Deeper: What Does That Say About Leadership?
This list is a blueprint for modern leadership.
Safe → Psychological safety is now more important than performance reviews.
Important and Seen → We’re in a loneliness epidemic. Attention is currency.
Reliable → In a noisy world, consistency is what calms people.
Victorious → Do people feel stronger after working with you—or drained?
Truth & Humble Confidence → Leadership without ego is the new gold standard.
So ask yourself:
❓ Am I providing these feelings consistently—or just when it’s convenient?
❓ Do I show up differently when there’s money on the line vs. when it’s quiet?
❓ What do people say about me when I’m not in the room?
💬 Story: The Loyal Client Who Never Left a Testimonial
I once had a client who never gave me a public shoutout.
No review. No tag. No “thank you post.”
But she rebooked. Again and again. Quietly. Faithfully.
When I asked her why, she said:
“Because I never have to worry. You’re just there. You don’t flake. You don’t disappear. You follow through.”
That’s trust. That’s consistency. That’s a human experience, not a sales funnel.
And when I lost two big contracts unexpectedly one quarter, she’s the one who filled the gap. Quietly. Completely.
Your invisible brand is what people fall back on when they’re deciding who to call next.
🧩 BONUS TAKEAWAY: Create Your Emotional Brand Review
Here’s a quick 3-question brand check-in you can do right now:
What 3 words do I want people to feel when they work with me?
What 1 recent action I took may have felt like a withdrawal to someone else?
Who deserves a deposit from me today?
That’s where the growth is.
❤️ Next Week: Loyalty, Repair, and the Rebuild
We didn’t even finish the conversation. We hit Part 1.
Next week, we’re digging into:
How to repair trust once it’s broken
The power of a real apology
What loyalty looks like when business gets hard
Because if trust is your bank balance…
Loyalty is your credit score.
Join the Breakfast With Champions Club on Clubhouse and tune in on Thursdays from 7:30 am – 8:30 am for my segment. https://www.clubhouse.com/room/mWwplybE?utm_medium=ch_room_merc&utm_campaign=cJRv0T6Iu1035dR_7vbSEw-478196
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